It ain't about the money

We had to sit down and plan out Mike's time off for the rest of the year. We've planned a few family trips, and I'm excited to have something to look forward to. But dang it get's expensive!

My Sis-in-law called me last night, and asked me about going on a trip. We touched a little on priorities. It was so nice to talk with someone who... without judgment or details... views things similar to the way I do.
I really do HATE talking about finances... or even more, when other people like to talk about their finances. There's nothing worse than people who won't shut-up about what they think is the best way to spend or save money. Seriously.

One of the big things we decided early regarding saving vs spending was about vacations. We have decided over the years to prioritize our relationship, and by doing so, spending quite a bit of time together... without our kids. (Gasp! Horrible parents!) But I have LOVED it, and I really see it as an investment in our marriage. And as far as investments go... I personally feel like that particular investment gives me the greatest return!
Some people plan on doing those things after their kids are gone, or when they retire... but I think that by then you never know what might keep you from all the dreams you've put off. Plus, physically... who knows? I also think my perspective is because Mike's parents both died young, before all their kids were grown. My Mom is single and my sister will go to college next year and she doesn't have a spouse to enjoy that time.
Not to mention, I want to always be 'in love' with Mike like I am now. I want him to know he is the most important thing to me, and I want to excitedly look forward to a time when it is just him and I. I love my kids... but Mike is my eternal companion... and someday my kids will find their own eternal companions, and I hope to set an example for them to put their spouses at the top of their priority list.

With all that said, I do feel we've taken plenty of time alone so we are taking the next 4-5 years and going on adventures with the kidlets. Mike and I will have to sneak time in between... but I'm excited to make the 'investment' in family memories and time together. I'm so happy for my in-law's, and glad they are going on a trip together!

I once heard a quote that said something like "The real measure of your wealth is how much you'd be worth if you lost all your money." And I'm happy to say that if my home, money, and material wealth were taken from me... I'd have no regrets. I treasure the places we've gone and the memories we've made. I'm excited to make memories with the kids over the next few years.
I really admire people who save lots of money, and people who manage finances well... but I think that my Step-dad ruined my idea of being 'frugal'. I guess not 'frugal'... but maybe 'cheap'. That man will die with a butt-load of money in the bank. But his life sure has sucked! As far as relationships and memories go... no amount of money will replace what he has lost in his life.

They say that happiness is a journey, not a destination. It's important to set goals... and it's important to reach those goals. I think you can still be smart with your money and plan for the future... but what's the point of any destination if you're not enjoying the journey?